Cooking Is Not Just For Women
Not all men like to talk sex, politics and sports some men love to cook, including myself. I have yet to set the kitchen on fire (hopefully I never do) but I’m quite confident I won’t overflow the kitchen sink like my wife while cooking dinner.
Being able to cook is a skill that is part of life and one that we should all know how to do. We don’t need to be chefs but we should understand the basics so we don’t have to spend money on take-out or rely on others to cook for us. The grocery stores thrive on those who come in and buy their convenience hot and ready to go dinners because they don’t want or know how to cook.
The movie “Failure to Launch” ( my wife made me watch it I swear) comes to mind but clearly Paula (Sarah Jessica Parker) the interventionist was thrilled when Tripp (Matthew McConaugehy) decided to cook her a full meal with all the trimmings even though she knew he was a mama’s boy. At 35 he was still living at home and mom was doing all of his laundry, cooking and cleaning but was he boyfriend or even husband material? I don’t know many women who would do what his mom did for him.
I think if you do something for someone over and over they expect it and you learn nothing but if you put some effort into learning like Tripp did eventually you will see you don’t need your mom to cook and clean for you. She did fall in love with him after all though so that must mean something.
When I know a man can cook it tells me they enjoy the simple things in life and if he cleans up without me asking, well that’s even sexier. -Mrs. CBB
I do both sometimes because she might not be home to help or because I’m the one who made the mess. Women don’t always want to clean up after us and vice versa. Just as much as a woman loves a man who cooks and cleans a man desires these traits in a woman just the same.
Men can’t cook
Do men really save money if they don’t know how to cook and burn more than they eat? We all have to start somewhere so if that means a man has to mess up a few meals until he gets it right then so be it. If you were left in the forest with no food around and only the tools to catch an animal and forage for other edible items would you starve to death or would you get off your arse and start hunting? Most would hunt because being hungry isn’t fun so I don’t buy the I don’t want to cook or I don’t like to cook attitude. It’s more about working as a team with your spouse to cook so you don’t put all the pressure on one person, even if it’s not your favourite task to do.
Showing your children that a man is cooking in the kitchen may also inspire a little chef and it may instil values in them that they can carry over when they get married. Gone are the days where the man goes to work and the woman wears the apron and slaves away in a hot kitchen all day to prepare the meals for the family. More and more men are interested in getting dirty in the kitchen but not all are as motivated as the next guy. Some men need a little push and others can’t wait to get in the kitchen to try and create some meals they can call their own.
Granted, there are some women who can’t handle their man in the kitchen and they get frustrated by their lack of common sense (we really can be that dumb in the kitchen) so they kick us out. They tell us to get a beer and get lost. Don’t think my wife doesn’t do it because she has on occasion because she says I drive her nuts. The only difference is, I love to cook and she loves to eat it.
Men can cook
Being in the kitchen is much different to a man who tends that grill outside. The BBQ is a sign of being manly especially if he has a beer in one hand and his utensil in the other (no pun intended). Men feel like the king of the grill when they get to open the lid and see flames.
Some great chefs are excellent on the grill such as Bobby Flay from the Food Network but he also takes over the kitchen with his mastery in culinary skills. I think the Iron Chef television show not only brought out the boldness in chefs all around the world but it taught us that men can cook.
I asked Jen and Ken a lovely married couple here at CBB (you might remember reading their budgeting story) about their relationship in the kitchen and this is the response I received from the both of them.
When I asked Ken what he did in his bachelor days he said he ate out a lot. When he did cook he asked his mom for old recipes she made and he also got a lot of tips from the guys at work. As a child and teen he helped a little in the kitchen but not as much as he should have he says.
He wants our son Adam to participate in the kitchen and learn more so he can grow up understand the importance of homemade cooking. We don’t want him to think that eating out is what he should be doing. Ken loves to BBQ and he is great at it and his meat always turns out perfect, moist, juicy.
Cooking isn’t really a hobby for Ken, it’s probably developed more out of necessity. You’ve got to eat, we can’t afford to eat out all the time and you get sick of eating the same thing all the time, so you learn how to cook.
Ken is famous on our CBB What’s for Dinner thread every time he makes his chicken pot pie recipe he found online. Jen says that the chicken pot pie was a recipe Ken started out with and modified to make his own. The changes he made to make it his own and perfect it was he cut the chicken broth to 1 cup and added a can of cream of chicken soup and added a little bit more frozen veggies. It’s delicious and I’m proud of Ken for taking initiative in the kitchen for our family. Yes, I think men who cook are very sexy.
When I try something new there’s an overwhelming fear of failure. The anxiety I feel is overwhelming until everyone takes their first bite and I look around and see their reactions of pleasure.-Ken
Men cook as a hobby
I’d like to think that my cooking is the equivalent to a hobby as I really do enjoy getting in the kitchen to create new meals. I don’t like having to eat the same old recipes over and over but I do fancy changing them up or coming up with some wacky idea for something we’ve never tried before. Just have a look at my recipe index and you will see that I not only cook but I also enjoy baking.
When I was single I used to hear the popular saying “real men cook” but I knew it was a load of rubbish because not everyone is meant to be in the kitchen and it doesn’t make you any less of a man. I do believe that just because we don’t like to do something it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t though. You have to be passionate about food to want to cook food but creating something to eat isn’t rocket science. In my single years I used to cook my meals every single day and it was rare for me to ever go out to eat. The ladies always made comments about the meals I would cook for them when I had a romantic date.
I’m tired of hearing my bachelor friends say they can’t cook so they just want to go out every night. Seriously, they give in that easy and are not worried about it one bit. I sure hope they find a woman who doesn’t care if he steps foot in the kitchen or that he can’t boil hotdogs to save his life.
I have a friend who is single and gets his daughter a few nights a week and they eat out all the time. She is a picky eater now because of his lack of cooking skills and he knows he’s spoiled her but now he needs to try and fix this problem before it gets out of hand.
The lesson he teaches her is that if you want something to eat you go out to buy it. He is setting her up potentially for failure in the kitchen. She may never want to cook but she may ended up paying big time out-of-pocket for eating out vs eating in. The price difference is astronomical so I’m working with him to challenge himself to go to the grocery store to buy groceries so he can cook a meal.
He laughed about it and said he can’t cook but I told him I would help him so he has no excuse now. If he wants to set some ground rules at home for dinner time he needs to make sure that the kitchen has a well stocked pantry and the tools available to cook are ready for him.
It’s true that some people have no inclination whatsoever to cook and it doesn’t matter how much money they spend eating out they will do it, because that’s all they know how to do.
Tips for men who want to learn how to cook
Well, I’m no Gordon Ramsay although I apparently have the go go go attitude when people get in my way but I do enjoy food, eating it and creating it. I’ve been cooking since I was a young guy around the age of 17 and cooked my way through a condo and my own house as a bachelor with no complaints from the ladies.
They say a way to a mans heart is through food but I also believe the same for a woman, especially if you she knows how much you care or even are in love with her. So don’t be chicken to cook, cook a chicken and learn how easy it is to turn something so simple into something very delicious. Think about all the money you will save and what you are going to do with it.
- Set a grocery budget- If I didn’t say this I’d be missing out on the purpose of budgeting for groceries. If you want to know how much your grocery budget should be figure out how much you have left to spend after all your bills are paid and what you can afford to spend. It’s not hard but knowing what you can spend helps you to decide how you will spend your money at the grocery store.
- Search recipes online free– don’t feel that you have to go and buy cookbooks to learn how to cook. There are millions of free recipes and tutorials online that can help anyone learn to cook. You can also take out cookbooks free from the library, ask your friends and see if your local community centre offers free cooking classes.
- Make a grocery list- Before you go shopping it helps if you have a plan. Plan your meals for the week and write-up a grocery list so you know exactly what you need to get in order to create your meals.
- Kitchen Utensils- If your kitchen has a fork, spoon, knife and a frying pan try to build your tools in the kitchen so you have more opportunity to create meals. Scope out garage sales for great deals or even freecycle, kijiji, Value Village or The Salvation Army are a few places you can go for second-hand kitchen tools. Alternatively you can buy them new when they go on sale to save some money.
- Stock your pantry- It’s always important to have a well stocked pantry only because if you feel there is no food in the house, you won’t cook. When you have all the basic staples in a kitchen it makes cooking much more fun, especially when you want to switch things up.
- Experiment- That leads us to experimenting in the kitchen using items that you have on hand to create meals or modify meals like Ken has above. Don’t be afraid to screw up, at least you tried it. One last quick tip, don’t forget, you can always add but you can’t take away.
Cooking is a living skill that I believe everyone should at least know the basics about. Eating out often is not only hard on the wallet but makes other people richer when you can keep the money in your own bank account. Whether women find a man sexy who cooks is up to the woman but I’m betting she won’t throw him out of the kitchen if he’s willing to cook up something special and romantic for the woman he loves.
Does your man cook and do you find it sexy? Does your woman cook and do you find it sexy?
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