I want to be more successful than my father: PF Weekly grab a brew #63

grab-a-brew-online-reviewALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS BELIEVE

 

Sometimes we want to be more successful than others especially if we come from homes where our parents aren’t successful in our eyes.

But what does successful really mean?

Defining what successful means or even being rich means is an inner belief that will differ from person to person.

 

Life lessons

 

When you go to school as a child and see other kids with the latest and greatest toys, gadgets and clothes or boasting about their vacations you wonder why you aren’t either.

As a child shopping at second-hand stores when your friends shop at the mall is hard but for many they have no choice. Eventually they will understand that the reason and unless they understand the value of money you may run into resentment.

Not all children will turn away on their parents but for the most part if they don’t grasp that you don’t have to spend money to be happy they may try to correlate money with happiness.

It’s hard to understand the meaning behind being successful and how hard it is to make something of yourself as an adult or as a parent. I watched this short 9 minute Singapore drama this morning called “Gift” and I hope you do as well.

The young Asian boy lived with his father and he disliked his father because he felt his was unsuccessful and from what I could tell lazy the way he slapped him in the face with a book.

He didn’t understand why he wasn’t unsuccessful and rich which over the years put a wall up between the two of them. As the young boy grew older and ventured out into the working world he gave up on his father.

He was more concerned about being more successful than his father believing that having the career, money and bling was what makes people happy.

Being Rich is not about how much money you have it’s about how much you can give-Father in “Gift”

He goes on to tell his son that somehow “when we give we will be happier”. I believe him because any time that I can help someone whether through a donation or simply my time or expertise I feel better about myself. I feel rich in heart.

You will be a great man…. just BELIEVE- Father in “Gift”

 

Money doesn’t make people happy, love does. Giving to others, loving others and making sure that you give your 100% in all that you do is what makes our world a better place.

These days the children are so focused on technology and what they aren’t getting that their friends are that they are missing the message.

 

Successful parents

 

Not all parents have successful career where they make comfortable incomes to give their children all they want.

When one family is taking their children on vacation to Florida for March Break another is sitting at home spending time together. Money is not what defines people.

It’s nice to have but it doesn’t mean you are not rich when you don’t have what you believe is a successful amount of cash in the bank or no debt etc.

Parents whether single or married work very hard to keep a household going and unless we teach children the value of money they may end up resenting their parents if they lack that richness like the boy in this film.

When I first read to grab a tissue in the headlines of this movie I thought there was no way I was going to shed a tear. Now after watching it three times if you don’t cry or have some form of emotion come over you then maybe you should evaluate what being successful means to you.

I once wrote a post about not comparing yourself to others especially when it comes to wealth rather focus on you and how you can make your world a better place.

Love does not care about money or how much you have or don’t have love is about sharing and understanding that simply waking up in the morning with all your basic needs met is important.

It’s important to take what you’ve learned and to spread the word and help others. Like in the video the father made the son pay his taxes from his allowance I presume and the father matched it. That money went to a great cause the boy would later discover.

Giving your time, making people smile, laughing, inspiring and believing that someone can do anything in this world is what LOVE is all about.

Don’t wait until your parents are gone to tell them that you love them and don’t underestimate how brilliant they are. Your parents know what they are doing and whether you believe they are successful or not boils down to what your beliefs. You only have one shot.

I don’t want to tell you too much but I urge you to watch this video and share this post with everyone you know.

As a parent you know your children look up to you so teach them the meaning of being successful from different perspectives so they don’t grow up to resent you or wish you did more for them.

Grab that kleenex.

-Mr.CBB

Top recipe

 

drunken leprechaun drink St. Patricks Day

 

If you don’t already know I have a second Facebook page online called The Free Recipe Depot where I share recipes from other Foodie Bloggers from around the world.

Once a week I pick one recipe that has been submitted as my Top Recipe of the week. Trust me when I say this is no easy task as some of these foodies can cook up a storm.

This week that recipe goes to a food blog called “Real Housemoms” and today I’m sharing their St. Patrick’s Day drinks “Drunken Leprechaun and “Pot of Gold” cocktails. Enjoy.

 

Weekly CBB posts

 

If you missed any CBB posts from the week here is the list of posts you can catch up on reading!

 

Weekly reads

 

Every week I share a few of the best personal finance blog posts that I read online over the past week with all of you so please enjoy my top picks.

 

Well, that’s a wrap for this PF Friday’s Grab a brew #63. Happy budgeting and I’ll see you here again next week when I do it all over again.

-Mr.CBB

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Mr. CBB
I’m from the UK and now a recent permanent resident in Canada. I bought my first house at the age of 21 after University then my second at the age of 24. I’ve always been fascinated with personal finance, savings, learning to make money and watch it grow while combating debts along the way. Canadian Budget Binder is a place where I get to share my experiences with personal finance and learn about yours along the way. I hope you stick around and check me out on Twitter, Facebook and Pinterest where I am active on all social media sites. Cheers, Mr.CBB
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Comments

  1. Very true. I will feel like a rich man when I have enough to give away to others :)
    Mario Adventuresinfrugal recently posted…Plan out your next job (or three) while happy in your current one — a personal finance goal for March 2014My Profile

  2. Thanks so much for the mention. I hope you have a great weekend too! Cheers!
    Holly@ClubThrifty recently posted…Your Child Will Need Student LoansMy Profile

  3. My parents were both incredibly successful. I have kind of the opposite problem. I feel like I’ll never be able to match their success and that I’ll disappoint them.
    Stefanie @ The Broke and Beautiful Life recently posted…My Problem With FaithMy Profile

    • Interesting to hear the flip side but we can only do as much as we can. Live up to your own goals and expectations.

  4. Thank you for sharing this film, so much eloquence in few words.

  5. Christine Weadick says:

    This father did so much for other children, it’s sad his own son didn’t know or realize until it was too late…..
    The one thing that popped into my head with this was the saying my daughter has on her wall bought by an ex-boyfriend. She is an Early Childhood Educator….
    “A hundred years from now, it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the make of car I drove. But the world may be different, because I was important in the life of a child…” This father was important in the lives of many children….

    • Thanks for sharing that Christine. I have watched this 4 times now and each time I’ve had tears. Sometimes we wait until it’s too late you are right.

  6. Thanks for the link love. I am definitely more successful than my father, but would love to be like my mother. She’s a hustler and I’m just trying to live up to her!
    Dear Debt recently posted…Being a Millennial Supervising a BoomerMy Profile

  7. Thanks for the mention!
    In life, what you do for others is more important than what you do for yourself.

    Mark
    My Own Advisor recently posted…Weekend Reading – Saving is future income, dividend increases and moreMy Profile

  8. My father never graduated from high school and spent much of his life working in construction and car dealing. But when he was in his mid-30s, he bought himself a bakery and was super successful. Even though he was constantly busy with his new business, he still gave back to the community and donated unused baked goods to shelters. He eventually sold his cake shop at a huge profit. He now works for the city.

    While most dont think he is successful in the sense that he has a fancy education or is making a ton of money, he is my hero! I hope to be just as successful as him in my own way.
    Michelle @fitisthenewpoor recently posted…Friday Roundup #21: Baltimore BoundMy Profile

    • WOW.. I hope if you write a father’s day post you take all of that above and insert. He sounds like a great man.

  9. What an awesome story, Mr. CBB. I’ve come over the years to change my views about my parents too. They made some life-changing mistakes that damaged us kids severely, but now we have come to realize that in spite of that, they did their best, just like we all do.
    Laurie @thefrugalfarmer recently posted…Women’s Power Wednesday – Week 2My Profile

    • Hi Laurie,
      I’m glad you took the time to watch that video as I found it so compelling. It really does open our eyes.

  10. Thanks for the link. I am following the Dave Ramsey plan and am currently paying off my home mortgage. After that is accomplished (hopefully by the end of this year), I will be able to give and build wealth like never before! And, all before the age of 30!
    Derek@LifeAndMyFinances recently posted…How to Survive On Minimum WageMy Profile

    • That’s what we did but we just used a budget to pay off our mortgage next month actually. Then we will be investing and saving like never before as you put it. Cheers Derek!

  11. Here is an update. I posted on Myownadvisor regarding 3 Big Fat Myths about Critical Illness Insurance.
    The author missed or does not understand how this coverage works. In a nutshell unless you can get at least 6% guaranteed for the next 30 years you can not accumulate this money tax free. Self employed? Disability coverage is a must but still might not cover you. The ideal is to have both.

    I have a client who had a serious illness. (Back at work within 3 weeks). he did not collect disability insurance
    Got paid a lump sum. Dave was kind enough to post his thoughts on video.
    See link below.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VOZsO3_kZs
    Regards,
    Brian Poncelet

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