Men, Women, and How They Think About Money

MONEY IS MONEY BUT ADD GENDER TO THE MIX AND THE MEANING BECOMES SOMETHING MUCH DIFFERENT.   Money is central to our existence and we all know it. We need, want it and got to have it. There’s nothing new to report here about any of that. It’s the basic reason we all get up every morning, battle the elements and the traffic, and hunker down at our jobs every day. Whether you are a Canadian or an American like me, there are differences between the genders. If you’re a man, you’re more likely to be coming home from work each day, unwinding and spending your time as you see fit. If you’re a woman, not so much. For as long as there have been people working outside the home, women have born most of the burdens of taking care of the home, kids, chores, and those kinds of things. When you look at the last 30 years of changes to our society, i.e. the big addition of women to the workforce, there may have been some changes in that old school approach…but not enough. Men still fundamentally think of women as the responsible party when it comes to family, […]

Stay at home new mom causing financial strain and marital upset

LIFE CHANGES WHEN THE STICK IS POSITIVE   So many people get divorced after having kids and now I know why, parenting is not easy but 110% worth the effort. I don’t think there is anything that could prepare you for becoming a parent, not even having lots of siblings. When we found out we were having a baby we knew that our lives were going to change, including our finances. My wife also knew that she was going to be a stay-at-home new mom and feared not knowing other moms to hang out with. Over the past year she has met plenty of other moms on social media, at the park and other community events. She says it’s getting easier but she does miss getting out whenever she is inside for a few days at a time with our son. These days we tend to do lots together as a family which helps our relationship to grow and our son build a bond with the two of us. Mrs.CBB is a people person so it’s important for her to get out of the house to keep her spirits up even though our son is the light of her life. […]

Would you take half your spouses bonus as a stay at home parent? : The Saturday Weekend Review #123

YOU WORK HARD FOR YOUR MONEY   Here’s a mock scenario. You’ve worked at your career for the past 8 years and every year you get a yearly work bonus of nearly $5000. When you go to work you work full-time and sometimes you work over-time which means you earn more money after the government takes their cut. While you’re off at work your wife stays home with your new baby for the next 12 months on maternity leave then you both decide she will stay home to care for the baby full-time and give up her career. She misses working because she enjoys challenging herself but loves to be a mother. Without a career and earning now she can’t go out and spend money on herself like she used to. No more purses, shoes, new wardrobes, manicure, new hairstyles etc. Now your wife wants half of your yearly bonus to spend on whatever she likes because she works just as hard as you do at home. Does this sound like your family?   Wife Bonus   I was reading this article today about this couple who splits the husbands yearly work bonus. They call it a “Wife Bonus” where […]

Why I’m A Stay At Home Parent And Our Budget Compromises

PARENTING MEANS MAKING DECISIONS THAT ARE FINANCIALLY AND EMOTIONALLY FITTING FOR THE ENTIRE FAMILY   Deciding to be a stay at home parent was very nerve-wracking process for my husband I but happy we took steps to understand it. Don’t for a second think that you are alone when trying to figure out if being a single-income family is right for you. There is no definite right or wrong answer but a couple of things you need to consider.   Lifestyle choice   Having a parent stay home full-time with the new little bundle(s) of joy is a lifestyle choice, some parents are quite happy putting their kids in daycare/in the care of family for work hours as soon as their parental leave is expired and that’s fine. Initially when I found out I was pregnant the first idea that we agreed on was that we wanted me to be a stay at home mom until our little guy was old enough to be in school part-time. And after throwing around various numbers, costs and logistics of getting to and from work/daycare, we discovered that financially it would work for us.   Money, money and more money!   Most of us are really not […]

Book Review-Money Smart Mom-Financially Fit Parenting

A Book Review of Financially Fit Parenting written by Author Sarah Deveau As you may already know Mrs. CBB and I have no children as of yet. We are hoping to have a child one day soon and this book was an excellent guide to answer some of our questions. When we hear about children and money we automatically believe it will cost a fortune to raise a child. That may be the case but if you plan and budget your money it may not be as bad as it sounds. Sarah doesn’t miss a beat in this book offering tips on everything from making the decision to have a child all the way to budgeting and saving for the future. All soon-to-be or wanna be parents like us should read this book and make notes and lots of them. You will learn everything you need to know about parenting tucked into this well planned out guide. One of the most important topics is preparing for one income and adjusting the budget to show this change. I often have mothers asking me how they can budget while on maternity leave  and I often tell them to “live it” before the baby […]

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