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Child breaks the food rules of daycare: PF Weekly grab a brew #62

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Rules are rules and they are put in place for a reason. We have rules at work to follow and many have strict provisions due to health and safety reasons.

When I read this article about a 2-year-old child that was suspended for 3 days from daycare for bringing in a cheese sandwich I knew it would cause online chaos.

The child broke the rules and according to the daycare policy would be suspended. It is what it is.

The Ottawa daycare says that parents sign a policy when they sign up at the daycare and it’s posted in French in regards to the policy on the front doors.

Chaos in commenting was right because plenty of parents and those without kids had something to say about this suspension. I’m sure many more parents will chime in because it is a topic of concern and it should be.

 

Follow the rules

 

So, the rules of the daycare state “no outside food” is allowed inside the daycare. Best of it is, if your child brings in any food containing peanuts they will be expelled. Strict, you bet.

The daycare provides everything needed for the children in terms of food and prevents any food from being brought in that shouldn’t be. After all many kids and adults have allergies and to combat any problems for the daycare they eliminate the most obvious, outside food.

I know when some of our friends take their kids to a home daycare they may bring their own snacks sometimes. It’s up to the parents to decide what daycare want to put their kids if they have allergies or any other reason not to eat a specific food.

It’s not an easy time when you have children with allergies and you want to protect their life. That’s what a parent and caregiver is supposed to do.

I’m not a parent yet so I can’t comment too much on this topic but I know if it was my child with an allergy I’d be concerned.

 

Suspension

 

Some people thought it was unfair that the child got suspended for walking in the door with a cheese sandwich. The father was unaware that she had brought it in from the car. He also has a 4 year-old son that attends the same daycare where they said to the father, he could stay.

I imagine the child took the cheese sandwich along for the ride and was to consume it before she went into daycare. These days most parents brains are in a million places especially if they are working a full-time job.

I see that in my sister-in-law who holds a senior level role in her organization but she always puts her child first. Sometimes it’s like you’re talking to a brick wall when you speak to her but she says she’s thinking about what she needs to do.

Parenting sounds to me like it’s not an easy role to take on but as a parent you must be aware at all times what your children are doing, especially at a young age.

I know for a fact that there is no way her child would have any type of food without her knowledge. Some people said the father should have been more aware of that situation.

I’m not here to say he was right or wrong or that the daycare should have let him off with a warning. What I am saying is that rules are rules and are put in place for a reason.

If one person breaks the rules and are let off then the downward spiral starts where others expect it. If we are talking about children’s lives here and if I had a child who had serious allergies I’d be concerned as well.

I know that for some it’s hard to grasp making the rules around a small percentage of children with allergies in one space but if it was a matter of life or death and it was your child wouldn’t you want the best care?

Wouldn’t you want to make sure that the daycare you were paying money to was doing everything in their power to make sure the safety of your child was the most important? That’s up to you to answer.

Do you think they should have given the father a warning or that the suspension of the child was warranted? Do you have a child with food allergies? What are your thoughts?

 

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Once a week I pick one recipe that has been submitted as my Top Recipe of the week. Trust me when I say this is no easy task as some of these foodies can cook up a storm.

This week that recipe goes to a food blog called “An Organic Wife” who came by to share her Triple Chocolate Brownies. Now if you follow me regularly you know I love my brownies so I instantly fell in love with this brownie. Enjoy the recipe.

 

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Well, that’s a wrap for this PF Friday’s Grab a brew #62. Happy budgeting and I’ll see you here again next week when I do it all over again.

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12 Comments

  1. I agree the daycare should enforce the rules. We are very fortunate not to have any food allergies in our home.Sometimes I just wonder why society is having so many allergies to food. Growing up in the 60’s & 70’s, I never knew anyone who was. How did this happen? Or did people die before, and we just never knew why?

    1. Often people did die and didn’t know why, who knows, allergies may have been a long time problem. I grew up in the 80s with a pretty bad allergy to strawberries and medication allergies, a neighbour of mine was severely allergic to a few foods, however epi pens were more common with bee allergies, not food and they are becoming more common. I also wonder if a lot of the genetically modified products or cross breeds of plants have a lot to do with it, but that is my guess. Awareness is a big thing, more people are paying attention to symptoms and reactions and not just passing them off as coincidence.

  2. Wow Angela, you have quite the problem there with your son!!!! It’s good he is learning to figure out what he can and cannot have/use as he gets older and out into the world more. With this as all things the lessons have to be age appropriate and you are doing very well there!!! Good luck in the future.
    Our grandson started school this past September and goes to a nut free school. The school also has a policy of healthy choices for lunches and snacks. This proved to be a learning experience for both him and our daughter. He loves his peanut butter but knows now he can only have it weekends as a treat. There were a lot of conversations the first couple of weeks on what could and couldn’t go in his lunch!!!
    Our daughter works in a daycare and they feed the kids there, not sure if anything is allowed to be brought into the building…. That being said, I’d guess that Dad fed this child right before leaving home thinking that the child would have eaten the sandwich by the time they got there without realizing that there would still be sandwich left. But rules are rules….. Dad should have made sure the sandwich was eaten before going in the door. He is the adult here..kids are kids….he should be the responsible one making sure the rules are followed…..

    1. Thanks Christine. We have challenges daily with him. Ironically I worry less and less each year as he grows but a renewed concern will be when they hit the grade 7 level. We share more concerns for the allergies that may lurk around the corner rather than what we already know. We are proud of what he already knows and we consider ourselves lucky he isn’t allergic to peanuts even though a friend of his and the sister of another friend are. We are careful in our own home with products to protect them as they can be in and out of our home, but it isn’t a banned substance for us. Peanut butter is a big budget saver in our home, and my son loves it. Lunches for school are so difficult, and when he was younger our day care took care of the food and they still do after school snacks. They are tough about what you can bring in, but have not banned bringing in food.

  3. When you sign a contract, it is up to the individual to know the ins and outs of that contract, and the consequences. In this case the consequence was suspension to the child for “contraband” food, however the consequence to a different child in their care could be death. No amount of money could bring that child back, but paying attention to whether your child is carrying food into an establishment can be fixed. No, there should not be a warning, the rules are in place for a reason. However, I do not find that the percentage of allergies are small, they are actually far more common than people realize. A lot of it comes from better testing and awareness than when I was growing up. However, allergies existed always and I was one of those kids with them. Fortunately I was not anaphylactic, but I knew someone who was and I grew up in the 80s. Unfortunately, most people without allergies just don’t understand the risks. And those who do have children with allergies often choose their day care based on how they deal with it. That family may have suffered the suspension, but another family is breathing a sigh of relief that they honoured their contract and their child is safe. No it is not overboard when a child’s life is at stake. I may have had my experience growing up, food was not banned and I was lucky enough to have hives occasionally. My son has a very large list of allergies. From food, to medication, to contact, to environmental. We have spent years with an allergist helping him stay healthy. He carries and epi pen and we have benadryl always available. We choose our day care based on the guarantees they could make us. And, even then they made mistakes and put my son in serious risk. I don’t want anyone else to go through what I did. The day care in Ottawa would be held accountable to their contract if something happened to a child if they didn’t follow through. Just as my day care put even more procedures in place based on what happened to us. It is sad that so many people have spoken ill of this day care who followed their own rules. As far as I’m concerned, rules are rules. Break them and face the consequences. It’s no different than what I try to teach my 8-year-old son. If he breaks a house rule, he knows what the consequences are. Why is it any different for adults? Yes, the child who was suspended didn’t understand what was wrong, but it was up to the parent to do their part.

    1. What I meant are small in numbers in a group wise BUT that small percentage needs to be looked after because like you mention it could be life or death and you can’t bring back someone once they are gone. Allergies are a big deal today and they should be when dealing with a life. Say 2 children with allergies in a group of 50. I do realize there are many children and adults with allergies. I have a relative who is allergic to kiwi and my wife has many allergies herself although none food related. Thanks for sharing Angela!:) Mr.CBB

      1. I wasn’t implying that you specifically didn’t know the numbers, just in general 🙂 Many people outside of my family and friends just aren’t aware how common allergies are. It’s a good thing the professional institutions are doing their part. I’m more concerned for two children I know that when they move on from elementary school to grade 7 (in my area elementary is to grade 6) the schools don’t regulate the allergies. Far more children at risk then. I’m not sure a grade 7 student is responsible enough whether they are the one with the allergy or not. I know they can’t be protected forever. But, with schools, it’s different. I enrolled my son, but didn’t sign a contract. With day care I did. And I agree, rules are rules.

        1. Oh, Ok I thought maybe you thought I was implying the numbers weren’t high in general. 🙂 That’s ok… thanks for clarifying 🙂 How do you teach children to fend for themselves as they grow older when they have allergies. Parents won’t be by their side day and night.

          1. Biggest thing I do with my son is awareness of the allergy. He knows what the food is he’s allergic to and the contact allergies. For example, he knows what cantaloupe looks like as it’s grown and as it’s cut (one of his food allergies). He knows that when he sees it he can’t #1 eat it #2 touch it #3 eat off of a table it has been on. Anything further than that we add new things as he’s growing. At 8, he can recognize it. However, he spends a lot of time looking directly in front of him, not at the people around him and that is where I rely on school and day care to monitor. I feel that is an age thing and he will get better as he gets older, but at age 12 will he be ready to be on his own? I don’t know. Cantaloupe is not banned like nut products at school and essentially he is at higher risk than some of his classmates. But, I don’t want him in a bubble, he needs to know how to survive on his own, just steps at a time. His contact and environmental allergies are more complicating. Teachers/day care providers/friends/family watch him to see if hives appear. Many times we can’t predict or avoid a reaction there, just deal with consequences. He has his own soap he carries even since the school and day care soap he’s allergic to which is another awareness thing. While I know my son is not typical and he has more to learn than others who have allergies. He will need to know how to protect himself. It’s funny to listen to him ask someone if there is cocamidopropyl betaine in it and they stare blankly at him. It is a foaming ingredient in soap, body wash, shampoo and toothpaste for example. So, he’s learning. For him, keeping track of how he feels is what we are working on right now. Education is everything, the more I learn, the more I can teach him. I just have to choose the right time to introduce new knowledge.

          2. Thanks for sharing that Angela. My sister in law is allergic to kiwi and like cantaloupe it’s not often heard of. It’s more about awareness from a young age you are correct. I’m sure once they know what would happen if they were to eat it or the potential dangers as they mature the allergy awareness will as well.

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