Hobosexual relationships are everywhere, and you’ll have your hands full for those who enter into one.
Love is indeed blind, and it can be the beginning of a complex financial lesson to learn for many people.
Today I will talk about the hobosexual relationship and how to spot one before it bites your wallet.
Finance And Relationship Are A Big Deal, Especially When You Move In Together
Falling in love with the couch surfing Joe or Jane manipulators can tear you emotionally and financially.
Before handing over keys to your residence, add beneficiaries to investments and co-sign for anything not in your name.
Beware of the hobosexual relationship personality type who preys on your heart and wallet.
Falling head over heels at the beginning of a dating whirlwind is exciting, and everything seems to fall into place.
Now might be an intelligent time to step back and evaluate what’s happening if you find the relationship is moving too fast.
I know you probably haven’t heard of the hobosexual relationship before. Still, today I want to dig a bit deeper into the meaning of being taken advantage of for personal gain.
The term “hobosexual” was brought to life by writer Nakita Nicci over at Rolling out, who describes a hobosexual relationship as a person who doesn’t have a genuine interest in you but uses you for a place to stay.
This world is full of scammers, and I’ve written many blog posts about money scams, but this is a different scam where the person may or may not get money.
A hobosexual craves a security blanket and someone to care for them without putting emotion or money into the relationship. Scary to think about, but it happens all the time.
Let’s look into the hobosexual relationship more, so perhaps you can learn about it and watch for targets coming your way.
Dodge them at ALL costs!
Meaning of a Hobosexual Relationship
What is a hobosexual relationship?
There’s a Seattle-based alternative rock band named the Hobosexual, but this isn’t about your relationship with music. It’s about your relationship in general.
According to the Urban Dictionary, A hobosexual is a relationship based on need rather than love.
There are healthy relationships based on love, and, in most cases, love takes time to develop.
Typically you don’t move in with someone a week or even two weeks or months into a relationship.
That sends red flags that something is not correct or the relationship is moving too fast.
Often this is why I’ve said it’s important when dating someone to ask lots of questions and if they think you are coming off too strong, move on.
It’s your life; you can choose how you live it and who you invite into your circle or private space.
Learning About A Hobosexual Person
A fan sent me something he had read on Facebook the other day, which triggered this post because I had never heard of being in a hobosexual relationship.
He sent me a photo shared on the thread about this type of behaviour as that of a hobosexual.
Like you, I had to Google it and read more into it because it reeked of someone being taken advantage of financially, emotionally and perhaps physically.
A guy I’m into came over the other day. He sat in my living-room, looked around and said he could get use to this and listed a bunch of things he likes about my place.
Then when he was getting a beer, he checked out all of my cupboards and fridge and freezer. He said he likes to see how I live as he opened and looked into every last one. Dishwasher too!
This was his first time over. We aren’t dating, but hanging out and into each other.
Is this too much? Maybe a bit weird?- Source– Facebook Group
I wanted to know more and share with all of you who may be single, dating, or actively seeking someone via dating apps.
I’ve had my fair share of dating apps, but trust me, if someone wants to lie, they will do it online and in-person, no matter where you meet them.
A hobosexual can be male or female and target anyone who fits the perfect life or life they want.
Hobosexual Relationship Example
Below is an example of what a typical hobosexual relationship is based around.
- Person A has no place to live, or where they live is not ideal based on their needs or society.
- Person B has a nice place that is functional and one that Person A could see themselves living in.
- Neither Person A nor Person B is in a relationship.
- Person A pursues a relationship with Person B not based on love but on the need for somewhere to live for free or near free.
n. pl. ho·boes or ho·bos1. One who wanders from place to place without a permanent home or a means of livelihood.2. A migrant worker.3. also hobo bag A large, crescent-shaped handbag with a single shoulder strap and usually a zippered top.
intr.v. ho·boed, ho·bo·ing, ho·boesTo live or wander like a vagrant a person without a settled home or regular work who wanders from place to place and lives by begging.
6 Hobosexual Signs to look out for
- They have nowhere to live, no address and avoid conversation about living arrangements.
- Lies, lies and more prominent white lies are consistently stacking up.
- The person is manipulative and contradicting and, in some cases, may seem too good to be true, checks all the material relationship boxes or is perfect with apparent flaws.
- The person will sympathize with you about past relationships gone wrong and blames other—no single periods for years but multiple connections.
- Go through cupboards or stuff around your house or car and make remarks about moving in.
- The person makes you pay for things and has excuses for money issues or asks for money or a loan.
Finally, run as you’ve never run before if you feel the relationship is moving WAY TOO FAST.
How to get out of a hobosexual relationship?
Ideally, please don’t get into a hobosexual relationship with a loser who takes advantage of you.
Boot their a$$ out.
On the other hand, it may not be as easy as you think, especially if you’ve moved a partner into a space that your rent or own based on common law as they fall under provincial jurisdiction.
No Common Law Status Then Kick Them Out
If there is no common law and you own or are the sole name on the lease of a rental agreement, pack up their stuff and kick them out!
Common-law relationships typically refer to couples that live together in an arrangement akin to marriage, but without an actual ceremony or legal documents.Ontario Justice Harvey Brownstone said there is no registration in his home province. In fact, as he points out, in Ontario, “common law” is more of a vernacular term. – Source CBC
Before moving in with someone, there are many things to consider, especially from a financial standpoint.
So, before you hand over those keys, do your homework and caution yourself about the hobosexual who couch surfs for free.
Discussion: Have you been involved in or know someone who enters a hobosexual lifestyle?
Please share your comments below.
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