In a typical setting tipping your server is not a requirement when you frequent a sit down restaurant rather it is at the discretion of the customer.
Not everyone has spare money hanging around but they may want to go out for a meal once in a while to celebrate a special occasion or just because they deserve a night out.
The budget is a place we save money for entertainment purposes but to be honest we never thought to factor in any tipping that we might do if we go to a restaurant.
Although I’m not used to the ‘tip your server gratuity’ in Canada because it wasn’t so common back home for me I still do tip as long as I receive excellent service and personally I don’t care what they do in their spare time as it’s not my business.
I wouldn’t tip just because I felt I had to nor would I feel the need to explain why I wouldn’t leave a tip so I was a bit turned off when I read this new article on Yahoo this morning about a New Jersey woman server Dana Morales a former US Marine who is gay and was not left a tip based on her sexual orientation from customers that she served.
What is sexual discrimination?
Sexual discrimination is discrimination based on sexual orientation essentially prejudice based on a persons sex or discrimination based on beliefs of someone’s sexual orientation. This is what it means to me but there are many definitions out there.
My feelings about this is that if you don’t agree with the way someone lives their life then keep it to yourself.
There was no reason that the customer needed to say anything to the server if they didn’t want to leave a tip as it is not mandatory to leave a tip in the first place, it’s only a courtesy for excellent service.
The fact that they went out of their way to make it clear that they did not agree with her being gay just goes to show us that hatred is never alone it follows people because they allow it to cripple their minds.
We would all be in a better place if we just focused on our own happiness rather than criticizing others lives.
Sexual orientation discrimination in the workplace happens all the time and to be honest I don’t know why so many people waste their time on things they cannot change nor should they bother with what others do with their private life.
There is a fine line when it comes to discrimination and in the workplace there should be a clear policy posted for all employees who should sign off they agree and understand it will not be tolerated.
Many people who do get harassed or discriminated against tend to keep it to themselves for fear of reprisal but people shouldn’t have to search for job openings at gay friendly companies as we should all be treated as equals. Is there such a thing anyways?
I don’t know what laws are in the USA when it comes to discrimination but I know in Canada that it is not tolerated and Human Resources don’t take reports of it lightly.
There is no bullying and harassment policy posted for customers and the best a restaurant owner can do is politely ask someone to leave or call for police back up based on the situation they are facing which is different in all cases and must be handled with the utmost of care because the establishments name is on the line.
I’m sure there have been many incidents when things have gotten out of hand and someone has had to step in. When I read what the customer wrote on the receipt it made me wonder how people can be so cruel to others when it’s simply not needed.
“I’m sorry but I cannot tip because I don’t agree with your lifestyle and how you live your life,” reads the receipt posted to the non-profit group Have A Gay Day’s Facebook page.
Just like the owner of the restaurant was proud of the way she handled the situation anyone who is faced with any type of discrimination in the workplace should not throw stones rather be the stronger person and do the right thing.
She was polite and would serve them again if they came back into the restaurant and that is the way it should be only because I feel when we let other people have control over our emotions we give up the right to be who we want to be.
We are always going to be faced with rude people in this world but like I always say, smile and the world smiles back at your or smile and if you piss them off well so be it.
Sexual discrimination based on sexual orientation is not new and is a big problem not only in Canada but around the world more so in the workplace but in everyday dealings with people in general.
I simply don’t understand why we continue to battle the forces that are before us instead of embracing change in this world.
This world would be a better place if we only focused on matters that are more important rather than who is sleeping with who and what their sexual orientation is.
What are your thoughts on this situation? Share them in the comments below.
Canadian Budget Binder this week
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- Christmas Shopping: Online or In-store
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- The grocery game challenge #2 Nov 11-17, 2013 International grocery shopping
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- Lemon Citrus Syrup Yoghurt Cake
CBB at home and the blog
As you all know I was away for a week this past week so it’s been quiet around the blog. I’ve found that it’s slowed down this time of year but I’m grateful for my fans who pop around every day to read my posts and comment to share their insights.
I’m working hard at winding down the 2013 year hoping to make some changes to the way the blog is run for the 2014 year so I look forward to some new challenges for me starting off my third year of blogging at Canadian Budget Binder.
At home I am trying my hand at keeping the radicchio going over the winter so we have fresh lettuce during the cold season. So far so good and it seems to enjoy the sunshine that it gets every single day and the pot that it lives in seems to be holding up quite well.
Radicchio is a pricey lettuce that you can purchase in the grocery store up to $4.99lb so if I can keep this up all winter I’ll be a happy guy.
Other than that with Christmas creeping up on us we will be out doing some Christmas shopping but we are hoping that Shoppers Drug Mart does their Mega Redemption this year so we can do a couple of redemption that we have been saving points up for.
We noticed that they now have tablets for sale in the electronics department so we may have to look into that for a potential gift in our holiday gift exchange for the family.
I will also be getting outside to switch the winter tires on the vehicles and put up the Christmas decorations outside before the snow approaches.
How has your week been going?
Fan deals of the week
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Mr CBB… here are my scores this week.
The eggs are a great price, 2 for 1 hams is good but the produce at Wal-mart was amazing!!! I thought I did really well for a grand total of $73.10. As usual…I was shopping the sales and only used one coupon.
Mary F. Campbell
Safeway – Maple Ridge
3 dozen Lucerne eggs ($8.97-$4.98 Loyalty Savings) = $3.99
Not only did I get in on the sale but we also picked up a rain check for another 3 dozen eggs @ $3.99! Yippee!!!
•Total OOP: $3.99
Save On Foods – Maple Ridge
2 Maple Leaf Hams ($29.98-$14.99 Coupon) = $14.99
•Total OOP: $14.99
Thrifty Foods – Maple Ridge
2 Island Farms Yogurt (2 for $5.00)= $5.00
2 Island Farms Cottage Cheese $4.49 ea
4 Avocados (2 for $3) = $6.00
2 Cauliflower (2 for $5.00) = $5.00
5 Lemons (5 for $2.00) = $2.00
5 Limes (5 for $2.00) = $2.00
1 bunch spinach $1.29
•Total OOP: $30.27
Thanks Mary for sharing your brag of the week with us. We know you are an amazing shopper and we can all learn something new from each other.
Making a difference
Hi CBB fans!
I’m Daisy and I am the finance and lifestyle blogger behind When Life Gives You Lemons, Add Vodka. (Update: No longer blogging here as of Jan 5, 2015)
I started blogging in 2010 on When Life Gives You Lemons, as a way to document my financial struggles as I put myself through college.
I had just quit my retail job, and moved four hours away from my hometown with my then boyfriend (now fiance) to work toward getting my degree.
Where I grew up there was, and still is, very little opportunity for business majors like me. I wanted to move to a larger city to get some work experience, earn my degree at a school that would allow me to apply my skills practically, and set down some roots.
What I try to convey with both of my blogs is that you can work your way out of, or into any situation that you would like.
I tripled my income in three years and now am a 24-year-old professional and member of a DINK couple (dual income no kids).
I was not doing good financially when I moved, but in the past four years I’ve secured a great job, started saving for retirement, saved up a ton of money and used it as a down payment on our house, and have begun investing.
I’m only getting richer every year and my passion is to empower young women (and men!) to better themselves financially, in health, and in outlook (though I admit I struggle with the same thing).
Even when life throws you curveballs, there’s always a bright side, and that’s where the vodka comes in. I try to bring a little motivation to my reader’s days by sharing my own struggles and successes.
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