NEW RULES MEAN CHANGE WHICH ALL COUPLES SHOULD EMBRACE Marriage IS financial, marriage IS physical and marriage IS emotional and without a balance that kingdom will crumble and fast. Marriage issues typically arise for more than one reason but for Mrs. CBB and I we created new rules this year to build up instead of tear us down. Be the contractor of your life together. Some people might question why would have any marriage issues when we are debt free but remember, money doesn’t make people truly happy from the inside out. It’s easy to fake a happy relationship when money is priority with fancy cars and a frosting of glass that no one can see through, but the both of you. Let’s be realistic, NO marriage is perfect BUT if you choose not to work on it consistently then it will never flourish. On the day we got married we thought we knew everything there was to know about each other but 11 years later and we were dreadfully wrong. Just because you fall in love and spend time dating before you get hitched doesn’t mean you really know the person you are marrying. This could […]
Poverty Stories: Growing Up Poor Made Me Rich But Not Happy
SOMETIMES WE KEEP LOCKED UP THINGS THAT HURT US THE MOST. Fan Submission to Poverty Stories My parents married when they were 17 years old back in the early 70’s and lived in a town just outside of Toronto. Shortly after I was born into what was a loving family environment that did what normal families do. This was the happiest and scariest moments for my parents because financially they were just getting started. Luckily both of their parents lived in the same city and they were able to get help from them with babysitting and anything else they needed. Both my parents are the youngest of many siblings who watched their brothers and sisters grow up to become successful in their careers. Walk down the aisle Back in the early 60’s and 70’s it wasn’t uncommon to get married before the age of 20 years old so naturally having a baby was the next step. My mother was an accomplished musician among her peers and my father followed his passion as a plumber in the trades. By the time they were in their mid-twenties they were both working steady jobs and life was getting busy. My […]
How To Keep Debt From Causing A Marriage Crisis
EVERY COUPLE HAS A STORY TO TELL BUT YOU PROBABLY WON’T HEAR ABOUT IT. A marriage crisis is about to turn your world upside down, so what do you do? You write me an email looking for a twinkle of hope. Marriage is knowing you’re in love with someone but not sure if you can continue to love them based on events that occur in future dealings with-in your relationship. This is where YOU needs to become WE. What does this all mean? This means that anything can happen even to couples who are in love. One minute you’re all mushy about each other and the next you’re ringing up the lawyer because you no longer can stand each other. The annual amount of divorces in Canada tops 70,000 according to the feldstein-family-law-divorce-fact-sheet-2016. Not only that but 33% of first marriages end in divorce. Some of the reasons for divorce documented from Stats Canada in the fact sheet states the following; Communication breakdown Unreasonable behaviour Infidelity Midlife crisis Financial issues Physical, psychological or emotional abuse Relationship “runs out of steam”/fall out of love Where did you both go wrong? Most often lack of communication leads the way to a bigger […]
When You’d Rather Be A Fortuneless Genius Than A Rich Fool
THE TALE OF TWO FINANCIAL MINDSETS Not everyone aspires to be wealthy because although money can take away the stress of everyday financial obligations it can turn a somewhat happy life into a dull miserable daily routine. Then again the rich fool has no interest in becoming a fortuneless genius when they are motivated to build wealth. Who’s right? Who’s wrong? Neither… Meet the rich fool Life should not be about gathering wealth nor having an abundance of possessions as described in the Parable of the Rich Fool. There are plenty of wealthy people who may have all the luxuries they need but daily living becomes somewhat of a low-budget movie. It’s easy to put up walls and blinders to those struggles that are happening around the world when money is no object. The rich fool may not survive life on the other side of their bank account especially if they grew up in a life of luxury. Related: How possessions ruined us and minimalism gave us freedom Having lots of money to travel the world, buy fancy toys, big houses, fast cars and all the things that will frost your life with luxury doesn’t make you […]
