You Can’t Expect Money To Buy It All
Money isn’t everything happiness is and to some people having money in the bank means you must be rich or you have a good job. That is far from the truth but only those who can see past what others have then they too can focus on creating a life for themselves that makes sense to them. This week has been all about relationships and money and to be honest it’s a topic I enjoy because the struggles that many people go through when it comes to money and personal life need to be heard.
There are things money can buy and things it can’t such as love, respect, happiness and likely a whole host of things that many people take for granted because money is involved. Is it better to be rich and miserable or poor and miserable? I guess only you can answer that question. How many times have we heard of famous actors and musicians committing suicide and they have all the money in the world? Money sure is powerful but is it powerful enough to take away the passion for life that is deep inside your heart?
Money is necessary to live but it’s also a ticket to rob, steal and cheat from people just to make ends meet. Money isn’t going to help your social life, love life and win whatever it is you are wanting to prove to someone. Many of these people will never find the survival guide they are looking for as there really isn’t anything magical out there.
How many times have you said to yourself, I don’t make enough money, I need more money, I am not good enough for someone who makes more money. Many people tend to put a strong emphasis on money and can tell you how often they’ve went to the mall shopping to blow their pay on clothes and cologne just to make themselves feel better about themselves.
Often the results are putting people into debt and they struggle even further with a new dilemma. Money can be a roller coaster in our day-to-day living if we allow it. When open our mouths and push aside the positive vibes we should be creating with negative we invite that darkness to continue to loom over us. It’s imperative that we replace these thoughts by being mindful of what we say and think before we speak.
The other day in my how to lose a guy in one date post I was talking about my friend who struggles to find a woman to love him for the man he is and one who allows him to be the man he wants to be. We are best friends so I know him pretty good and when we spoke that particular day it was clear he felt money IS everything and IS the reason why some women were not good enough for him. His negativity is his downfall and he fails to see it at the best of times but he told me that she arouses his senses and he is a happier person these days for that because she is so unique and like no other. The hard part for him is to accept that someone believes in him because he needs to believe himself as well.
He’s in love
The dates have come and gone for him as he searches for true love through online dating sites but there is something brewing in his surroundings. I’m no love master but from the sounds of it a close relationship has flourished between them. His emotions run deep when it comes to women since women often leave him so he must get past his negative thoughts in order to fully grasp the situation. He’s clearly in love with this woman he’s known for many years as friends but holds himself back because he is fearful he can’t give her what she needs. He lets failure win before he even starts and he could miss out on something very beautiful in his life. The door is half-open for them both and someone has to make a decision.
He contemplates forever with her even though I can tell by the way he looks at her in the eyes and talks about her that forever is what he wants. He says she motivates him to be who he wants and inspires him to reach for his goals, something no other woman has done for him before. I often believe when you can feel passion that strong coming from another you know there is something special happening. It’s nice to see him smiling all the time, now I just need to assure him that walking through the door won’t be as bad as he thinks, although it’s easier said than done. Us, men are stubborn mules.
She earns more money
One large set-back for him is that she currently makes more money than him and she seems to have it all together. Sometimes what we believe is not always what it seems though. His attitude is most times gloomy when it comes to his appearance as he doesn’t want to grow old and lonely. I don’t know how many times he’s talked about his wrinkles, white hair and his demise because of lack of sleep from his job and responsibilities
As I mentioned before in order for him to love he needs to love himself first but he also has to realize that money isn’t everything and it shouldn’t define a relationship. He told me money has come up in numerous conversations and eventually it does get to you when you feel like you aren’t achieving more. To be honest not all woman want a man with money or some high-paying stressful career who comes home yet is too tired to do anything.
Having money doesn’t necessarily mean happiness as many people struggle between love and money and only see an end rather than a beginning to eternity together. Some of those who have lots of cash in the bank are bitter and dismal inside because the money isn’t giving them what they desire. The instant high is just that, instant then it goes away. Sooner or later the spending spree will end and reality sets in. I told him that if he just forgets about the money he will be able to love effortlessly.
One and the same
I think it’s just the way men think but when they feel that they don’t earn enough money or aren’t happy with their chosen path in life that they have to find a certain “person” that is their equal because no one else could possibly want them. So for example movie stars only date movie stars or those who are in senior level roles date the same and the poor can only date the poor or tall people with tall people and short people with short people. It’s such a sad stigma we create for ourselves and it’s of our own doing because we don’t believe in ourselves and our love.
You and I both know that when 2 people fall in love that love does not care how much money you have, where you are from because love sees past our insecurities. Love truly is a phenomenal drug that powers people up and takes them to places they’ve never been before. We do silly things when we are in love and that’s one sure-fire sign that we are on to something special. I can think of many silly things I did when I was falling in love, now that I think about it. For someone who yearns to be loved though they start to believe things are wrong with them when no one comes around, so they try to fix themselves.
He also revealed to me that he thought he wasn’t buff enough and craves attention from the ladies. You see, he wants to be noticed, and he wants the women to close in and huddle with each other about how sexy he is. I’m afraid the years of being 20 are gone and he’s trying to relive them forgetting that there is more to life than being a male stud for the women. You have to love yourself. He lacks self-confidence but what he fails to see is that even guys with muscles can lack confidence. Muscles may give you strength but they don’t give you passion, that comes from deep inside. Get healthy, get fit because you want to.
The title of this post is money isn’t everything because I feel that some people have a hard time forgetting about money and living life like they were meant to be, free as a bird. By spending money and going to the gym he wants to build muscle to feel more confident and to spin heads with the ladies. I’m not sure he will get what he really needs from that, at least not long-lasting. It reminds me of the instant gratification of a shopping spree.
What I don’t understand is how some people feel they are not “worthy” of loving someone who makes more money or has a fatter bank account or a great career. The same goes for those with money who fall in love with someone who has less. It shouldn’t be the deciding factor in love unless debt load is just far too much for someone to handle.
I’m not sure why the stigma and it’s mostly men because we are brought up to believe we are supposed to be the bread winners. Over the years women have broken through the glass ceiling and are taking over senior level positions by storm and you know what, we should just deal with it like men and move on. These ladies may be strong, powerful, confident and make good money but at the end of the day we are all human and we all have a heart.
Changing the way you think about money and how it affects your daily life the better off you will be. Money is simply a means to pay for your expenses to live although when you hear some people go on about only wanting to marry rich or date rich and successful people it’s hard to clear thoughts of inadequacy from your mind. I think that if my friend removes the “money” from the equation and drops the fear of opening up his heart and his mind the woman he was meant to be with, might jut be with him forever.
I believe in fate so if they are meant to be it will be and I also believe that building confidence, encouraging happiness and guided focus will enable someone to see the world clearly.
Forget about money and work on ‘you’ if that is what makes you feel better. Showing others that you can soar through the wind accepting the ups and downs gracefully you exude more confidence in yourself with or without money. Nothing in life is easy, we all must work hard for what we have even belief in ourselves.
When I was grocery shopping the other day, just outside the doors was a young man in his late 20’s early 30’s sat outside playing the guitar. He had his guitar case open and people were putting in coins and bills for him. Although he probably doesn’t make a fortune entertaining grocery store customers the mere fact that he took his hobby public to see if he could earn some form of income shows confidence and women love that. They love that more than they love someone who just looks good, same goes for men and women. Show the world you’ve got talent even if it is planting a garden or even taking photos and bringing them to life with your creative touch.
Money does not and never will buy happiness so when I suggest that money isn’t everything and to forget about it the innocence in happiness will gleam. What I’m trying to say is even though you might be broke or have little money if you remember that you are just as worthy as everyone else you can be victorious.
Create your own happiness by allowing yourself to embrace the skills you have and give them your 110% effort. If you have a hobby you are so passionate about, explore it and take it to the next level. Take action now and don’t wait around for someone to give your behind a push because that day may never come. Think with an open-mind and smile because it’s free.
When we remove money from the equation we open our minds to focus on what we should be focusing on and that is our life.The art of smiling, walking hand in hand and making memories together on a sunny day or enjoy a windy breeze at the beach is the beauty of simplicity,
Running out and blowing money to look good or spending like mad at the mall isn’t going to solve your problems. Keep your eyes focused straight ahead on the target and don’t lose sight. Although you may be wanting to earn more money remember that your family and loved ones are just as important if not more than money because money is just paper.
I don’t think we necessarily need to forget about money because we need money for daily living but what I have learned is that we need to classify it in our lives. If you want to enjoy the world remind yourself that money isn’t everything, happiness is. Until we set ourselves free from money we aren’t able to shut off, unwind and just overall take time to think about how it affects our lives. Love the life you have and embrace your surroundings and love will shine through.
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